Lately D has really been searching that gender issue. He asked Mima "Are you a girl or a boy?" Mima responded "What do you think?" "That you are a girl but your hair is short!"
He also described a guy on a motorcycle, who had a feminine backpack that D thought was a little too small of this large man, as a man-girl.
I know, I know where did he get that from "MAN-GIRL" and no we have never said anything like that ever. But this child is very creative and articulate and you put that together and you have a child that makes up words left and right. Words that make sense but aren't words.
When probed he defined " 'Man-girl' as a guy who dresses like a girl" NICE ONE!
Okay so I was thinking about the whole issue and how delicate that matter really is because you don't want to discourage your child from using descriptive words but you do want them to know that you just can't say anything you want out loud.
So we touched on the issue, and of course this won't be the last time we will have to deal with D saying his thoughts out loud- So far we have just been lucky that he hasn't said anything potential hurtful in front of someone.
But when I was thinking about how the gender issue to him is more looks that actions, I was proud of our home. Because in this home- Gender is not defined by actions, it is only defined by appearance. In this house there isn't one gender that does all the cooking, cleaning, chores or outside chores. This child sees both his parents doing those things. Which is why my little one won't play with a pink guitar, but has no problem playing all evening with a red Kitchen-aid mixer!